no one completes you, but you

on mountain

I know you have probably heard this one before, but I want to share it again in hopes that some folks might start to believe it and do something about it.

No one can complete you.

Say that to yourself a few dozen times, because that is truth in it’s most pure form.

No one completes anyone else.    Continue reading


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you can come, but your spouse isn’t invited

this way that way

The first time I ever heard of this was in reference to a married couple I knew well. A group that they socialized with told them that the husband could still be a part of the group, but the wife wasn’t invited anymore. I just could not wrap my head around why anyone would ever make that kind of ultimatum to a married couple. What were they thinking?! These were the nicest couple of folks you’d ever want to hang out with and they did so much for the group dynamic and many of the members of the group. They were salt of the Earth, friendly folks. What could ever motivate anyone to issue such a strange and socially awkward invitation?

So I spoke up against the group for what I perceived to be very rude behavior, and soon after, my husband received essentially the same invitation. He was welcome to come, but from now on, I was not. Both of us laughed. Did they really think they were that interesting?   Continue reading


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Men on Facebook

facebook scrabble tiles

I am all for equality and being paid the same, or better if it warrants, when it comes to men and women, but there are some places where gender differences are markedly different. One of those is on Facebook.

Note: The following observations are made about people that generally use Facebook on a regular basis, whether it’s just to read items, or to stay connected with friends.   Continue reading


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Need money? Try eBay! It’s easy!


Okay, I admit it’s not all that easy, but I have a couple of friends that make it look easy. They have been eBaying for almost a decade and for them eBay is a really nice living income. I asked them some of the secrets to their prosperity and they were happy to share the story of their success with me.    Continue reading


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Sharing some light with you today

love letter

This isn’t something I wrote, but I want to share this article I found online so you can go through the list to see how many you can say “yes” to. I got 9 out of 10 and that’s not too shabby! How many did you get?

10 Signs You’re Living a Happy Life (even if you don’t feel like it)

The only one I still struggle with is having regrets. I regret that I allowed the toxic people that were in my life to take up so much of my valuable time. So today I spend extra time cherishing the good people that have been in my life for a very long time.

I finally realized that people aren’t work or problems or drama.

People are love.


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Let them eat Cake!

eiffel tower

Let them eat cake!

This was the alleged response Marie Antoinette gave when told the French peasants were revolting because they had no bread to eat and were starving to death. In other words, let them do whatever they like, as long as it doesn’t interfere with what I’m doing. This same disregard for another person’s predicament or feelings brings to mind a conversation I had with a woman that had positioned herself between a man she desired and his longtime mate.

Me: How did you let him know you were interested in something more than a friendship with him?

Her: We were at a convention and a guy was hitting on me at the bar one night. I asked him if he would pretend to be my boyfriend, and he did.

Me: And that’s it?

Her: Yeah. It put the idea in his head and it let him know I was interested. I kind of flirted with him a little too.

Me: He lives with his girlfriend and I happen to know he’s in love with her and has been for many years. Did it bother you that he was in a long term relationship?    Continue reading


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faced with dying

something to talk about


January 12, 2016 · 12:54 pm

my favorite housewives

I would like to start out by admitting that my favorite housewives are my own friends that have been keeping house for real, for as long as I can remember. But on reality television, my favorite housewives are on the Bravo station.

Now hold on a second before I lose you! Before you pass a blanket judgement, you have to hear me out.  Continue reading

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feeling entitled


I was listening to another of my favorite podcasts the other day and the word “entitled” was discussed. The podcaster said that this is a word that carries with it a lot of ill feelings in our world today. I think a sense of entitlement can be arrogant, self centered and mostly undeserved of the person that has the sense of entitlement. It brings to mind a petulant and spoiled child stomping their feet and yelling to be heard.

At any rate, she was saying that sometimes we need to feel entitled.

I think there is a fine line there.    Continue reading


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my favorite podcasts…so far


For a while it seemed all of my friends were listening to a podcast called Serial. This podcast started out as a narrative about a true story murder in Baltimore, MD. A few of my friends that were obsessed with it kept asking me, “Have you listened yet?!” 

Well this past summer I finally listened to it and I got hooked! Yes, I got hooked on this particular podcast, but I also got totally hooked on podcasts. I can’t stop myself from downloading different ones and listening to them. I finally did something that lessens the guilt of listening to podcasts all the time and keeps me working out and that is I only listen to them when I’m on the exercise bike, walking the neighborhood or I’m on the treadmill. I bought a phone pouch and now I can even listen to them when I’m doing floor exercises. I use them as a reward for getting in shape.

If I hadn’t limited my listening time, I’d be wearing headphones all the time!    Continue reading


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