a tea kick :)

fro The Republic of Tea

from The Republic of Tea

For as long as I can remember, my husband and I have enjoyed a pot, or a cuppa, hot tea in the evenings. We don’t claim to be tea leaf experts, but we both know what we like. I am more of a black tea drinker, while my husband leans towards the green teas, rooibos and some herbals. Usually if I’m drinking an herbal, it’s to treat an ailment. I rarely drink them for taste, unless it’s a superfood tea blend.   Continue reading


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Celebrating 22 years, the Blue Crab Tavern

Exterior of the Blue Crab from the water before the deck remodel.

Exterior of the Blue Crab from the water before the deck remodel.

Nestled on a tiny gravel parking lot sits a small cinder block building painted the color of a royal blue, happy sky. Even though this pretty little place outwardly exudes seaside charm and ambiance, it is the stuff of urban legends and scary tales from the redneck crypt. Some locals might shiver their timbers when the words “Blue Crab Tavern” are uttered, but visitors roll right on in and pull up a stool. From knife fights to bar brawls and murderous shenanigans, the Blue Crab Tavern has been the rumored scene for many of the larger imaginations roaming the beaches here on the Outer Banks. The truth is that there might be the occasional lover’s spat inside those hallowed blue walls, but anything beyond that is just an old wive’s tale. The Blue Crab reminds everyone of a hole-in-the-wall watering hole from back home. It’s got that charm!   Continue reading

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never be afraid to walk away from drama

being afraid


October 4, 2015 · 1:29 pm

Starting to Squat


picture credit to Mammoth Hunter :)

I have been moving on a daily basis now for quite a few months. It seems that once you clear your calendar of worry, those muscles need a little stretching out, so that’s what I’ve been doing.

I added this one move to my workout that used to scare the living crap out of me. It was in one of my beginner yoga books as part of a warm up stretch. It’s called the flat footed squat. Squats of any kind always frightened me because I never knew if once I’m down there, I’m going to be able to stand back up, or have to roll over on the floor and then try to stand from a lying down position. That last part would look totally awkward and be incredibly discouraging, by the way.   Continue reading


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when your friends are friendly with jerks

real dog

a beautiful dog


dog art

a beautiful dog rendered in torn tissue paper collage art by Katy Shultz

Everybody has that one friend, or if you’re unlucky enough, maybe you have a few friends, and they are all friendly with one of the biggest jerks you know. I have a few friends like this. I sometimes feel like they didn’t read the memo. I don’t get it. What in the world do they see in these assholes that they’d thank them for being their friend? Really? That jackhole should be thanking your friend for giving them any attention at all!

Here’s the deal…you saw what they have done to other people that you like and respect, you saw the heinous crap they tried to do to me (remember me? your friend?) and to my family and you still want to hang out with this creep and confide in them?   Continue reading


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if you love someone


Tonight I watched a scenario play out in real life that was reminiscent of something you might see in an old movie. I was sitting at the bar in a Chili’s restaurant waiting for my to-go order when it happened and I couldn’t stop looking once it was in play.

Imagine this.

Four high school teenagers are sitting in a booth across the room from me. I’m guessing they were either juniors or seniors because they looked a bit mature underneath the high school logos plastered all over their shirts. One girl with long shiny brown hair had the school colors painted on her face. It was a sunburst of feathers around her eye. It was a pretty paint job.  Continue reading


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I have never been Starstruck


A “hot set”. That’s me in the jean jacket. Photo credit goes to Catherine Hardwicke.

Well, that’s not entirely true. I was starstruck once a long time ago when I worked in the motion picture industry. It was my first job and I was working in the production office as an assistant. Alan Alda breezed through our tiny office with a group of location scouts. They were touring the office spaces for a film he was producing. When I saw him, my breath caught in my throat and my cheeks burned. He was not only a star, he was an icon by then. No one else in my entire life has ever rendered me completely speechless the way his presence did that morning. That’s what being starstruck feels like.

Working in that fickle and demanding industry taught me a few things about life and about myself.   Continue reading


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taking a walk


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the OLD ME vs the new me



THE OLD ME: OMG! Everyone is mad at me this week! What did I ever do to deserve this? How can I make everyone happy again? What do I have to do in order to get them to like me again? Oh boohoo! 

the new me: Well, this week has been extremely productive! I have grown stronger and more resilient every single day and I have celebrated each day that I survived the shit storm of drama these trolls have thrown at me! My new motto is starve the troll and feed myself. Teehee! Life is good! 

Happy birthday to everyone that continues to enforce and live by the healthy personal boundaries they make for themselves. Stay true to what you believe in and shut the door in drama’s face. 


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why do you Expect it to be Different?

photo of sunken boat by Chris Shultz

photo of sunken boat by Chris Shultz

I’m never sure if it’s resilience, that blind, forgiving bitch in our lives called hope, or just denial, that gives people permission to stay in a situation that is just not healthy for them to be in. I see it all the time. I have even done it myself. You stay and you make excuses, or you continually modify your own behavior in order to accommodate some asshole/assholes that is/are abusing the crap out of you.

Why do we do that?

Why do people stay in these hopeless and toxic situations and expect things to be different someday?

Here’s a little gem that most of us never learn: If the situation you’re in is toxic, it is not going to get any better, but you will probably make yourself worse by trying to stay in it.    Continue reading

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